Queer Nerd with a Ukulele
“It’s important to clarify that sex education that teaches about pleasure doesn’t have to teach about technique (though elective college-level sex education that does this is great). Letting teens know that women usually achieve orgasm through the rubbing of the clitoris, whether fingers, mouth, object, or penis, isn’t the same as screening an instructional video on giving good cunnilingus. It’s not the same as writing down the names of sex-toy shops on the blackboard, or handing out diagrams of cool and exciting coital positions. And teaching that lubricants reduce pain and increase safety and pleasure during many kinds of sex should be thought of not as performance advice, but on par with vital lessons about condom use.
Real sex education is not the same as porn education. Instead, it’s about teaching that pleasure is an important part of any sexual relationship. It’s about teaching that there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel sexual pleasure and seeking it out, so long as it is done safely and responsibly. It’s about teaching comfort with one’s body and a lack of shame over desires, and there is more to sex for all people than sticking penises into vaginas. Real sex education teaches how to go about making intelligent , safe choices, rather than just stating the choices available. I believe there is a big difference. And I believe that teaching teens to make smart choices about sex must involve teaching them that having sex, partnered or alone, can be a smart choice”.
”Real Sex Education by Cara Kulwicki in Yes Means Yes
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So, in my social group/constellation/whatever, we’re all really close. All my close friends have keys to my house, so they can come by whenever they want. This makes it easy when someone goes away, we can all feed each other’s pets! Plus, those of us who have laundry machines let those who don’t use ours, as its much nicer to do laundry and hang out with good people, or at least be able to sit inside and use the computer, than go to the laundrette!
So my friend Je, she comes by quite a bit, and she has a toothbrush here, along with me and my husband. Now, I have a boyfriend who spends the night quite a bit, and has started leaving things here - including a toothbrush. So we were getting the start of a jumble of toothbrushes in our little toothbrush holder, and many of them looked a like. In the short term, I put super hero stickers on the handles, but then I found these cute toothbrush holders for kids on amazon! There is one for each person who has a toothbrush in my home, and the animal is significant to them.
In order, the tiger is my husband (He was born in the year of the Tiger, and he’s a Leo) the cat is me (I’m a cat mom, and my boyfriend calls me kitten. Plus, there was no rat!) the dog is my boyfriend (he’s very wolf like, but again, no wolves, only dogs) and the panda is Je, who loves pandas!This way, we can all find our toothbrushes, they are all cleaner than if they were in the cup, and its a cute way to personalize our bathroom! Its these fun little poly situations I really enjoy - we all talk about time organization and google calendars and primaries, but none of the logical stuff, like, what do I do with all these damn toothbrushes?
When I first read that it was friends that all came over I honestly thought this was my old house. Such a cute system!
Eeee ohmygosh, this is so adorable.
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This dress was inspired by the student in my sociology class who thought that all feminists were hairy and butch. I just want to make sure that everyone knows that a feminist can wear whatever the fuck she or he (or both or neither) feels like wearing. My sociology professor loved the dress and she gave me extra credit! I used a potato stamp to make the print, I used a vintage pattern to make the dress, and I embroidered the phrase “This is what a feminist looks like” on the bodice.
I give this an A+
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Of course we do
CAKE IS DELICIOUS
for all y’all bi Power Pussies out there!
lmaooo omg
I’m queer and poly, a.k.a. all the “greedy” sexuality stereotypes wrapped into one. Good times.
Also just so you know you guys I bake really good cake why the eff would I not eat it?
Parks and Recreation | S02E01
yes
I haven’t seen this show, but I approve.
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Let's get weird. {{TMI TUESDAY!}}
- 1: What is the real reason you are confused right now?
- 2: Do you ever get “good morning” texts from anyone?
- 3: If your significant other smoked pot, would you care?
- 4: Do you find it easy to trust others?
- 5: What were you doing at 11PM last night?
- 6: You’re drunk and lost walking down the road; who is with you?
- 7: What would you do if you found out you had been cheated on?
- 8: Are you close with your dad?
- 9: I bet you kissed someone last night, right?
- 10: What are you listening to?
- 11: You can only drink ONE liquid for the rest of your life - what is it?
- 12. Do you like hickeys?
- 13: What time do you go to bed?
- 14: Is there someone who continuously lets you down?
- 15: Can you text as quickly with one hand as you do both?
- 16: Do you always answer your texts?
- 17: Do you hate the person you fell the hardest for?
- 18: When was the last time you talked to one of your best friends?
- 19: Is there someone that makes you happy every time you see them?
- 20: What was your last thought before you went to bed last night?
- 21: Is anyone else in the room with you?
- 22: Do you believe what goes around comes around?
- 23: Were you happier four months ago than you are now?
- 24: Is there someone you wish you could fix things with?
- 25: In the past week, have you cried?
- 26: What colour is the shirt you are wearing?
- 27: Do people ever call you by your last name?
- 28: Is anyone ignoring you right now?
- 29: Do you have a best friend?
- 30: Would it be hard seeing someone else kiss the last person you kissed?
- 31: Who was your last call from?
- 32: Are you mad at anyone?
- 33: Have you ever kissed someone older than you?
- 34: How old will the last person you kissed be on his/her next birthday?
- 35: How many more days until your birthday?
- 36: Do you have any summer plans yet?
- 37: Do you have any good friends of the opposite sex?
- 38: Are you keeping anything from your best friend(s) now?
- 39: Do you have a secret that you’ve never told anyone?
- 40: Have you ever regretted kissing someone?
- 41: Do you think age matters in relationships?
- 42: Are you available?
- 43: How many people have you had real, strong feelings for since high school ended?
- 44: If you had to get a piercing (not ears), what would you get?
- 45: Do you believe exes can be friends?
- 46: Do you regret anything?
- 47: Honestly, what’s on your mind right now?
- 48: Did you ever lose a best friend?
- 49: Was your last kiss a mistake?
- 50: Why aren’t you pursuing the person you like?
- 51: Has the last person you kissed ever seen you cry?
- 52: Do you still talk with the person you LAST kissed?
- 53: What was the last thing you ate?
- 54: Did you get any compliments today?
- 55: Where are you going on your next vacation?
- 56: Do you own anything from other countries?
- 57: Are most of your friend guys or girls?
- 58: Where have you lived most of your life?
- 59: When was the last time you took a long drive?
- 60: Have you ever played Spin the Bottle?
- 61: Have you ever TPd someone’s house?
- 62: Who do you text the most?
- 63: What was the last movie you saw?
- 64: What’s preventing your current boyfriend/girlfriend from going back to their ex?
- 65: How many boyfriends/girlfriends did you have in 2010?
- 66: Is the last person you kissed younger than you?
- 67: Do you curse around your parents?
- 68: Are you happy with where you live?
- 69: Do you collect anything?
- 70: What’s your favourite colour?
- 71: Does the last song you listened to remind you of anyone?
- 72: Has anyone ever cheated on you?
- 73: What are your plans for tomorrow?
- 74: Do you have siblings over the age of twenty-one?
- 75: Does your last ex have a job?
- 76: What would you do if you found out your most recent ex was in a relationship?
- 77: Where is your cellphone?
- 78: What colour is your cellphone?
- 79: What did you dream of last night?
- 80: Are you atheist?
- 81: Will you change your name when you get married?
- 82: Are you ready for autumn weather?
- 83: Have you had any big storms recently?
- 84: What kind of bottoms are you wearing?
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RESOURCE
For anyone who wants to help displaced kids.
Lots of queer minors are being displaced and I’m seeing it all over Tumblr. This gives a state-by-state listing of laws regarding runaways/unaccompanied minors. I wouldn’t want any of the good people on Tumblr who’d take them in to get into trouble. Anyone who wants to help should read the section on their state. It’s divided into sections in the table of contents.
Please spread this link around!
(Source: littlelovelybabygirl)
Kids:
A few hours ago, I landed in Los Angeles, turned on my phone, and confirmed what you already know. Sony Pictures Television is replacing me as showrunner on Community, with two seasoned fellows that I’m sure are quite nice - actually, I have it on good authority they’re quite nice, because…
Sony Pictures Television bumped Dan Harmon from his position as showrunner of Community without even phoning him about it.
WITHOUT. EVEN. PHONING. HIM.
Community may have its issues, but speaking as a person who is generally not that fond of TV, it was one of the few things currently on the air that I genuinely enjoyed watching, and this kind of network assholery makes me really sad and pissed off.
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